What does it mean to take care of oneself?
Growing up we might have learned that taking care of ourselves and paying attention to our own needs is being selfish and self-centered.
However, if we don’t take care of ourselves, who will?
It is a matter of constructive selfishness. When we feel good about ourselves, we are better able to give to others without expectations of getting something in return. Giving for fun and for free.
Self-care is not about wallowing in our grievances about the past or fruitless worries about the future.
Self-care is prioritizing our own physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. We need to ask ourselves:
Is my physical well-being a priority? Do I eat well and get enough sleep? When was the last time I had a checkup or went to a dentist? Do I keep myself clean? Take breaks? Exercise?
Do I ask for a hug when I need to? Am I growing more aware of my feelings? Can I celebrate when things are going well? Am I taking time to enjoy myself? Is any of the attention I once gave to negative thinking now focused on gratitude?
Do I have a relationship with a Power greater than myself? If not, am I willing to give it a try? Do I make time for prayer and meditation? Am I more willing to ask for help?
Courage to Change, Al-Anon Family Groups, Inc. 1992, p. 354
Once we start reflecting upon our self-care habits, we are beginning to improve them.
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